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GILLIAN
TARAWHITI
Self Image
Specialist
Qualifications: BSS, Dip. Community
Service, Dip. Business Management, Dip. Adult
Education
EFT WORKS SO WELL ON BARRIERS &
LIMITATIONS
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BELOW Self
Image | Fear of Public
Speaking
|Anxiety
| Stress | Fear of
Heights/Flying | Relationships Emotional
Weight Issues | Grief
| Other Phobias &
Fears | PTSD
| Abuse
Issues
How Gain Back Your
Life Services work is ... I charge by
RESULTS
If I can't get you the results we mutally
agree on -
I WILL GIVE YOU ALL YOUR MONEY
BACK
Will EFT work for you? Are you willing to
TRY!
"Writings on our walls" is an interesting
phrase and refers to "the truths" we learned as children. Some of
these truths, as it turned out, became quite supportive, and
sustained us in achieving successes in various aspects of our lives.
On the other hand, many of us may have learned truths that turned
out to be limitations in some way, and we find ourselves held back
because of them. Guess what? Just about every one of
us has Self Image Issues. The difference is simply a question of
degree. Your parents sometimes (or a lot), your
babysitter (sometimes or a lot), your peers, your siblings, your
uncles or aunts, teachers, or perhaps it was just a family friend...
at some time or another, someone, usually in a highly emotional
state, explained to you, the way the world is. I'm talking about
those experiences with whomever (parent, peer, sibling, etc.) that
caused you to believe in your limitations. These conversations could have started with:
It seems The Rule is: "Anyone else can
write on my walls, but I cannot. What is written on the walls is
true and, as long as the writings on the walls exist, I cannot go
for it." Once again, EFT is available to rescue you. REAL LIFE EXAMPLE I assisted a very
beautiful teenaged girl who thought she was extremely ugly, her
parents told me she use to be outgoing, had lots of friends and
described her as a confident girl. When she started high
school, they noticed things started to change, she become quiet,
friends eventually stopped coming around, she preferred to stay at
home than go out with family. The daughter continually
complained about how she looked and that she would never be able to
fit in if she didn't so something about her face, her hair, her
eyes, her nose and the list went on. They put her in
counselling for 6 months put found little if no change. When
she eventually came to me and after a brief conversation. The
issues that were actually underlying her self image issues where no
longer an issue for her. Two weeks after the session the
parents advised there teenage daughter was back, she doesn't
concentrate on her flaws anymore, had invited her friends overs and
is happy again. Two weeks after that I spoke with the daughter
to see how she was going and she informed me that her outlook on
life is great, she doesn't see herself as an ugly person anymore and
was very grateful. EFT works -
When nothing else does. It's not a long drawn out process,
results are sometimes instantaneous -as in one session, and long
lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top Of Page .... FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE Over period of time I have come
across so many people who have a fear of public speaking, and to
listen to their history of how this fear has affected them is mind
blowing. One instance in particular is of a gentleman who
worked for a Legal Firm...a Barrister to be exact. Having to
Speak Publicly is a major part of his job. He has spent the
past 25 years in absolute terror every time he went to court,
breaking out in sweats, vomiting before he went into the court room
- even the thought of going into the court room mate him
dry-reach. Had an attack of the nerves. Even by his
recognition he really was an effective lawyer because of how this
disability made him feel. Over a period of many years he had
taken may courses and therapy to help him with this issue, some had
limited effect but soon wore off. After 3 or 4 sessions using
EFT the symptoms this lawyer had all disappear. 6 months later
in a follow up session he told me he has not had any issues with
speaking in public, no longer has anxiety, no sweating, no vomiting
or dry-reaching. So confident is he that his success rates in
court has increased (not that we claim to have had anything to do
with that - but it's not uncommon). He also stated
that staff had noticed the dramatic change in his
outlook. EFT works - When nothing else does. It's
not a long drawn out process, results are sometimes instantaneous
- as in one session, and long lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
Of Page .... ANXIETY Do you suffer from any of the
following: My clients have told me
that the problem with anxiety issues is the more you have them, the
more you FEAR you will have them, therefore...the more you will have
them. It is the Sympathetic
Nervous System that causes the body to go into the fight or flight
mode in the first place. It is the Parasympathetic Nervous
System that returns the body to normal. By doing EFT for that
and inviting the Parasympathetic Nervous System to return us to
normal, we can get quicker results. REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE An elderly lady who is a friend of a
friend was sent to me in the hopes that I could help her with
anxiety attacks she was having. She advised that her attacks
were becoming more frequent and doctors had prescribed medication
for this but she felt when she tooks these pills her anxiety
intensified or she was continuously drowsy which also made her
anxious. After a couple of sessions all
symptoms disappeared, the real issue to her anxiety was fear of
being alone and more. When these issues where nullified the
issue disappeared. 12 weeks later in a follow up she reported
she has not had any anxiety attacks since, her doctor had taken her
off the medication but couldn't understand what had changed.
She had joined a few groups and re-kindled relationships with long
lost friends and family. She tells me she doesn't feel lonely
anymore. EFT works - When nothing else does. It's
not a long drawn out process, results are sometimes instantaneous
- as in one session, and long lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
Of Page .... STRESS The effects of stress are insidious and we
often fail to notice them. Our mind and body have a tremendous
capacity for adaptation. The more able we are to adapt to
pressures around us, the greater the temptation to drive ourselves
harder, beyond our capability. Stress distorts our perception,
so that we do not notice that this is
happening. It is not
unusual for people to accept stress-related symptoms as a normal and
common part of tlike until, that is, they reach a point of overwhelm
and their mental and/or physical health is
impacted. Take
a look at the Stress Level Rating Scale
Below: 10 OUT OF
CONTROL Engaging in excessive or addictive behaviors
such as alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, sex, spending, obsessive
relationship or work; violence (verbal or physical). 09 OVER
REACTIVE Jumping to conclusion, not willing to listen,
frequently disagreeing, threatening, sarcastic, glaring; feeling
overwhelming loneliness, frustration, rage, resentment, and
self-pity; saying always and never when hurt or
angry. 08 DEFENSIVE Notice others not “taking care of
business.” Heavy use of denial, anger, bargaining, silence,
withdrawal, blame, criticism, excuses, intellectualizing,
rationalizing, evading, minimizing, moralizing, pleading or
apologizing. 07 SPACED
OUT Not being present to situation at hand; can’t
hear what is being said to you because of your own “self-talk”’
zoning out, getting lost in daydreams, etc.; do not notice stress is
building in you. 06 BARELY MANAGING
OKAY Barely getting everything done, need help, but
don't ask for it, tell yourself to “try harder, plan your time
better”; start to let go of self-care activities; having a hard time
saying “no”; do not notice stress building. 05 MANAGING OKAY
Life’s demands and your energy (physically,
mentally and spiritually) are mostly in sync. 04 MANAGING OKAY
PLUS Your physical, mental, and spiritual energy
nicely in sync with life's demands. 03 MANAGING
EASILY Your physical, mental and spiritual energy
exceeds life's demands. 02 MANAGING EASILY
PLUS Abundant physical, mental, and spiritual
energy. 01 VACATIONING Total and complete sense of
relaxation. If you can identify
yourself at a 6 or above, then you are half way
there. REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE On a daily basis I work with people
who suffer from some degree of STRESS. One in particular was a
group of 5 people who worked in the same workplace. Their
stress levels were so high there was constant absences because of
illness or fatigue, disharmony in the workplace, unable to meet
required deadlines and more. Working with each person
individually and working on their specific issues, then working on
group issues and dynamics, then working with the managers -
noticeable and dramatic results occurred over two sessions.
Staff and managers learned how to manage the triggers to stress
as soon as it come up. I did a 6 monthly follow up on each
person to see how things were going. 4 of the 5 staff members
stated that they used EFT everyday and have found they feel
happier not only in the workplace but in all facets of their
lives. After several individual session of the 1 person that
did not get much relief after a few more sessions - informed me that
things have absolutely changed in the workplace for her. She
is not defencive anymore about suggestions management might have
about changing things. Her home life like her co-workers had
changed dramatically where her partner saw significant changes and
said he'has back the women he married. The managers informed
that absenses had decreased by 80%, outcomes had increased by 75%
and the whole of business was working
well. EFT works - When
nothing else does. It's not a long drawn out process, results
are sometimes instantaneous -as in one session, and long
lasting. Contact me today on any of the
phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
Of Page ....
Heights Fear of heights usually is
accompanied by a physical discomfort, as in feeling nauseas, stomach
aches, sweating and more. REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE A
young gentleman I was working with was wanting to get an
apprecticeship as a roofer, his father was a roofer, uncles, cousins
were roofers and he wanted to be one too. He was offered an
apprenticeship to start in a week, but he knew he wouldn't be able
to take it if he didn't get his fear under control. When
talking to him he became intensely aggitated by the thought of
having to go to great heights on a level of 0 - 10, 10 being
extreme, he rated himself as a 10 - after one session he rated
himself as a 0 so to test it I asked him if he would climb a ladder
I had, he did stood at the top for a bit then came down saying he
had no intensity whatsoever. We went to the highest building I
could find and found a balcony to test again and again no
intensity. Some weeks later I followed up on how he was doing
and he informed me he decided he didn't want to be a roofer after
all, he only wanted to do that because his family use to give him
grief about it, but once he started the job decided it wasn't for
him. He then went on to say he has another job as a BUNGY
INSTRUCTOR and has down many jobs since we meet. Fear of
Heights dealt with...I think so! Flying REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE An OCD client I was working with had
a fear of flying, she had never flown before but the thought of it
terrified her. She could look at a picture of a plane without
feeling faint and/or nauseous. After one EFT session she was
able to comfortably look at a picture of a plan, after another
session she was able to go to the airport. After one
further sessions she flew interstate to see her newly born
grand-daughter. 6 months later she can't remember ever having
a fear of flying, she has made up for this 20 year fear by going on
a world tour with her husband - whom by the way never thought he'd
ever get to do - fly around the world with his wife. Whilst these things may never happen, if you
have these feelings they become real issues for you.
Fortunately EFT works - When nothing else does. It's not a
long drawn out process, results are sometimes instantaneous -as in
one session, and long lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
Of Page ....
I know of a sure way to ruin your relationship.
Be a critic. Of all the relationship poisons, this is
the deadliest. Over time, it is guaranteed never to improve
the quality of your life.EFT is the most useful antidote to this
poison. Using EFT
initially doesn't solve the problem. Instead, it helps you to get
straight emotionally first. When you can
be more neutral, both parties can confront and negotiate the truths
of the situation more evenly. Very often we lose sight of the awful fact that
we are just as much a bother to our partner/friend/workmates.
Naturally they will remind us in due course. You become the
criticisee, the receiver. When you cop the lot (Australian for
receiving criticism) EFT can help eleviate the emotions that come
along with it. REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE A couple I had worked with decide
that they would try one last time to see if there was any point to
staying together. They had been married for 2 years and both
felt they needed to get out of the marriage - they both described it
as being toxic. Each criticised the other for anything and
everything, both not being able to negotiate any solutions.
After a one-on-one session individually dealing with being a critic
and being critised - they were both able to come together and start
to talk calmly about things/events that negatively affected
them. As they worked through their issues they both did
EFT. Having being opened to each other concerns they were
better able to rationally come up with solutions. 2 weeks
later they informed that there has been a calmness in their home
since our session. They both committed to doing EFT 3 times a
day and both stated they had fallen back in love with each
other. 6 months later they both describe their marriage as
full of love, they talk to each other alot more and allow each other
to have separate time away from each other for own pursuits such as
golfing, dancing etc. with out
criticism. Fortunately EFT works -
When nothing else does. It's not a long drawn out process,
results are sometimes instantaneous -as in one session, and long
lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
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Yoyo dieting
is a symptom of Emotional Weight Issues - not the cause.
REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE Now, I have some
personal experience in this field. You see, before I was
married I weight 110 Lbs, after I got married I piled on 66Lbs, at
my heaviest after having my children I weighed in at a whopping 240
Lbs and carried that for some 10 or so years. I tried every
diet conceivable and exercised for a time, with some success, till I
stopped and the weight piled back on with a vengence.
5 years ago after learning of EFT I was able to
elimate the emotional weight issues I had been carrying around along
with the physical weight and lost 64 Lbs. After successes on
myself I gave the same recipe to clients who registered having this
issue. Fortunately EFT works -
When nothing else does. It's not a long drawn out process,
results are sometimes instantaneous -as in one session, and long
lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
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What is Grief? I can be defined
as an intense sorrow caused by the loss of a loved one or
something and/or an event. Their is appropriate Grief, but when the Grief turns
into a prolonged state of continual spates of depression then EFT
often works where nothing else will. REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE A
friend lost her partner of 10 years in an accident, and unbeknown to
me over a period of several months her Grief became worse, and
worse, to the point she wasn't able to hold down her job. She
had been prescibed some heavy duty antidressants and her whole
appearance and attitude had changed. Eventually because of her
downward spiral she ended up in hospital. In her hospital bed
we did EFT for all the hurt she was feeling, the depression she
felt, the loneliness, the loss and more. The next day when I
returned to visit she was sitting with the nursing having a cup of
tea. I asked her how she was, she told me that when I left she
fell asleep and didn't wake up till just before lunch time.
She had slept like that for months and she was feeling good.
We went back to her bed and did some more EFT for residual issues
and told her to continue for issues that might come up. Once
again on my return her mood was very upbeat. The doctors had
told her she could leave the hospital and wanted to know what caused
her recovery so fast - they sent her home under psychiatric
supervision but after several days it was decided she did not need
it. Everyday I visited and she became more calmer, more in
control - she was able to look at her life with her partner with
positive admiration without any intense grief or depression. 6
months reveiw and she is now helping other people to help them
overcome their grief issues. It's not a long drawn out process, results are
sometimes instantaneous -as in one session, and long lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
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Phobia's are a FEAR of something - the FEAR not
only has emotional issues but also physical issues as
in: I have assisted people who
have a variety of issues such as: Fortunately EFT works -
When nothing else does. It's not a long drawn out process,
results are sometimes instantaneous -as in one session, and long
lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
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PTSD Post
Traumatic Stress Disorder is a
debilitating condition that often follows a terrifying physical or
emotional event causing the person who survived the event to have
persistent ... So debiliating is this Disorder that it can
affect every part of your daily life, your ability to work or hold
down a job, relationships and more. For many years I have assisted
women and their families suffering Domestic Abuse. People
assume that when you remove the person/people from the situation
that the event no longer exists. This of cause is not
true. REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE A lady who presented with PTSD
advised that she was having continual relationship issues, was
untrusting of people particurly males, had a strained relationship
with her children, found it difficult to hold down jobs, she found
it difficult to sleep and found refuge in drink alcohol - probably
more than we should (by her words). She said she didn't know
why she felt these feelings and why she did was she was doing.
After several questions found out she had, had an abusive husband
for some 15 years and eventually gotten out of that relationship
over 3 years ago. Using EFT on the issues that she raised she
was able to see how the effects of the past had altered her
perception of life and that she really hadn't dealt with the issues
of the past which had presented themselves in present time.
Several session we worked on many issues and she was also able to
work on issues for herself. 2 weeks later she advised that
there had been a positive change in her whole household, it was far
more calmer, more happier, her relationships with her children we
much better and she had a healthier outlook for herself and her
family. 6 months later she informed me that she had just
completed a certified course in youth work, she had been in a
relationship with a man for 2 months (longer than any other
relationship), her relationship with her children was great and they
encouraged her to undertake further study and would help with
assignments because if this they become more enthusiactic at
school. She was sleeping more soundly, she no longer used
alcohol to numb her feelings, she was working part time in a
community centre consistently for 6 months and life was great (her
own words) Fortunately EFT works -
When nothing else does. It's not a long drawn out process,
results are sometimes instantaneous -as in one session, and long
lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
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ABUSE
ISSUES
Abuse issues is such a global statement because
abuse covers so many forms but to simiplify and complexed issues I
put them into three catagories: Physical, Verbal, Emotional.
Abuse can be part of or all of these issues. The commonality
is that Emotions are linked to all. REAL LIFE
EXAMPLE A young women came to see me because
her friend told her "either you get help or you will loose the last
friend you have". I asked her what she meant by that and she
replied "I'm a straight forward person and I don't suffer fools
well". With alot of apprehension and after several minutes of
EFT she was then able to tell me the following
story. She lived with an alcoholic father, he was
physically and verbally abusive to her throughout her youth and as a
teenager. When she as able to leave her environment, she
(by her own words) became physically and verbally abusive
herself. She would easily become outraged and
when she went out she would become physically violent at
the drop of a hat, especially when she had been drinking. By
her own words she had no friends, no one she trusted and no one she
relied on. The only reason she has a friend is because when
things got really bad at home in her youth she would go to her
friends house and hide out and they have been friends since
pre-school. And of everyone in her life this one person had
never let her down and valued her friendship and didn't want to
loose it so was prepared to do what she need to change. We
worked on every issue that she raised over several sessions.
Each time she returned she would be smiling, she woud say things are
going great. 2 weeks after our last session she reported that
he life has changed immensely - she said her co-workers were so
intimidated by her they would not talk to her but had seen a change
in her and had gone to a co-worker for dinner without causing a
seen. Her friend advised that she seemed like a new person and
notice a far friendlier, outgoing person. 6 months on she
reported she has been in a relationship for over 5 months (which is
a record for her - by her account) with no physical or verbal
violence what so ever. At a christmas function she was voted
Miss Congeniality. She decided to put her physical energy into
martials arts which she says she's doing great at. 2 weeks
later the young women's friend phoned to say there had been a 100%
turn around, her friend was more mindful of other needs, so much so
that she referred her friend to me for issues around 'Not having to
be a crutch for her friend'. Fortunately EFT works -
When nothing else does. It's not a long drawn out process,
results are sometimes instantaneous -as in one session, and long
lasting. Contact me
today on any of the phone numbers below or contact me by
email .... Go To Top
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Important note: While EFT has produced remarkable clinical results, it must still be considered to be in the experimental stage and thus practitioners and the public must take complete responsibility for their use of it.